Frequently Asked Questions
What is the difference between coaching and counselling, mentoring or consultancy?
Coaching is a short to medium term intervention that is action-centred and goal-oriented. Coaching focuses on the future while acknowledging the past. It encourages clients to move into a better future rather than staying stuck in the past.
Both coach and counsellor often ask “how does that make you feel?” encouraging you to tap into your emotions. While in counselling you then tend to look at the emotional issues of your past, coaching will encourage you to move forward through action-oriented solutions. Both approaches are equally valid. It is a matter of choice and, sometimes, a matter of need.
Mentoring is usually done in professional contexts and involves handing down knowledge and expertise by a more experienced person to somebody less experienced.
Above all, the relationship between coach and coachee is a partnership of two equals. Coaches are neither therapists nor consultants. Psychological intervention and business analysis are outside their remit.
Is coaching right for me?
That depends on you. We will listen, guide and encourage you, but the changes you want to bring about have to be made by you. We will ask the right questions at the right time for the right purpose. You have to give the answers and, above all, live with the answers. That can be daunting at times, but rest assured that we will support you all the way. The long-term gain is an increased self-acceptance, which leads to more self-confidence and a more satisfying life.
Do you coach in person or over the phone?
Both. We can arrange face-to-face sessions at a mutually covenient location, coach over the phone, over Skype or MSN Messenger (daytime, evenings or weekends). The important thing is that you feel comfortable, and the timing is convenient for you.
How frequent are the coaching sessions?
The coaching process is tailored to your needs. We can arrange weekly, fortnightly or monthly sessions.
How do I know I've got the right coach?
Trust your intuition. The coaching process is an intimate process, and a very powerful one. You need to feel comfortable with your coach; the chemistry has to be right. You can always try it out and negotiate an opt-out clause with your coach in case you are not getting on as well as you had hoped.
What are the benefits of having a coach? Can't I just talk to my best friend about everything?
A coach is a person who isn't part of your life and hence has no vested interests. As helpful as advice from parents, siblings, friends and loved ones can be, there usually is some level of interest and/or judgment. A good coach will never judge you, but share useful observations with you to allow you to move forward, break barriers of perceived limitations and help you to stop listening to negative self-talk (which is partly created by our nearest and dearest).
How long will it take to change my life/career/habits?
That depends on the nature of the issue and your own pace of life. Short to medium term goals take 6 sessions, while career or major life changes might take 12 sessions.